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Learn how to live in harmony with your diagnosis.

  • People don't understand what it's like to have borderline personality disorder.

  • Therapists read books and study, but they don't understand how it feels or what it means to live with BPD.

  • You feel lost and isolated.

  • There's a continual struggle inside yourself.

  • You continually question who you are and never quite fit in.

  • You experience multiple emotions in one day.

  • Your moods can change suddenly and without warning.

  • One moment you're on top of the world, the next you're in despair.

  • Relationships with family and friends are tense, difficult and volatile.

  • Relationships don't feel safe.

  • Nothing feels safe when you're struggling with borderline.


Don't give up on yourself because of a borderline diagnosis.

  • You can be helped and you can heal.

  • You don't have to struggle your whole life.

  • Things can and will get better.

  • You CAN change your life.

  • There are better days ahead.

  • You just need to accept that you need help.

  • And get the help you need.


You can develop a healthy and unconditionally loving relationship to yourself, and the people around you.

  • You can overcome your fears,  anxiety and insecurities.

  • You can transform negative behaviors and toxic beliefs.

  • You can surrender the past and stop fearing the future.

  • You can learn how to process and feel your feelings, without getting lost in them.

  • You can understand yourself, believe in yourself and be you bravely.

  • You can heal your broken pieces and move on from past trauma.

  • You can trust yourself and trust life fully.

  • You can feel safe.

  • And you can be happy.

Emotionally unstable personality disorder

My name is Saskia Lightstar, and I'm an integrative coach that helps people overcome  borderline personality disorder.


  • Just being here on my website is a huge step because it means you want to get help.


  • You haven't given up on yourself yet.


  • You want to heal, and I can help you do that.

  • Choosing to leave your comfort zone is scary, and making changes isn't always easy, but I can guide you every step of the way.

  • Together we can make sure you reach the beautiful life you want.


  • It's time to take action.


  • You do that by clicking the link below to set up a call with me, so I can get an understanding of who you are and what you need.

Borderline Personality Disorder

Some of my areas of expertise.

  • Emotional dysregulation. Manage and regulate your emotions, and no longer fear the pain and overwhelm of negative emotions such as anger, anxiety or depression.

  • Unstable relationships. Find a healthy balance in your relationships, instead of alternating between idealization and devaluation of others, and finally overcoming the fear of rejection and abandonment.

  • Lack of identity. No longer struggle with a sense of self, which contributes greatly to feelings of emptiness and instability. Find certainty in your values, goals and career choices etc.

  • Low self worth. Transform your relationship with yourself, to achieve confidence, worthiness and self belief.

  • Impulsive behavior. No longer engage in impulsive or risky behaviors.

What my clients say...

Carolyn B, Australia

Since working with Saskia I have developed a stronger sense of who I am, and a level of self compassion and awareness I would never had thought possible. Saskia is generous with her time, she gives me encouragement and hope whenever I reach out to her with her gentle and loving words. I find Saskia to be very authentic and relatable which were very important aspects to me. She is very real, natural and kind. 


I would thoroughly recommend Saskia as a life coach. 

Coaching is for you if...

  • You've tried to improve things, but nothing has worked.

  • You feel alone, misunderstood and unsupported.

  • You want to build a better relationship to yourself.

  • You want to have better relationships with those around you.

  • You are determined to heal and change your life.


Book an initial chat with me today.

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