The 5 things I wish
I'd known about life
AFTER cancer treatment.
There is no normal to go back to.
But what they don’t understand is that the ‘normal’ we knew before cancer is impossible to get back to.
There is no more normal after going through cancer treatment because going through a trauma like that fundamentally changes you forever.
The doctors should be saying something more like this...
“Your treatment is done, now you get to start a whole clean, fresh chapter of your life.”
That is the reality of our situation.
But as long as you keep trying to 'get back to normal' you'll just be banging your head on a brick wall trying to get back to the past when you actually have a bright new future.
You will never be the same again.
You don’t have to be the person you were before cancer.
Continuously trying to get back to the person you used to be is probably the reason why you are struggling to move on.
Maybe you used to be super fit before cancer, perhaps you could run marathons and now you struggle to make it around the block.
That’s okay. You don’t have to be a super athlete if your body is telling you that’s just too much after everything it has been through. You can choose to be content with going for a run around the neighbourhood for 20 minutes.
Perhaps you were a social butterfly before cancer, who floated here, there and everywhere but now you prefer to spend more time at home.
That’s okay. You don’t have to feel the pressure to go out all the time, or feel the fear you might miss out on something. It’s okay to stay at home and be cosy if that’s what makes you happy now.
Or maybe you were a fashionista who thrived on designer heels and handbags, but now is more inclined towards tracksuit pants and slipper socks.
That’s okay. You got to the otherside of cancer treatment, you can wear anything you want!
Reevaluating your diet and lifestyle
is a good idea.
Sure you can go back to take-outs and drinking booze most nights; the argument being that you survived cancer so why the hell shouldn’t you enjoy the time you have left, right?
Because adjusting what you eat and how much you drink will give you much more lifetime to enjoy!
It doesn’t have to be all or nothing, but adjustments do need to be made.
You owe your body that much don’t you think? It got you through cancer, so now it is your time to say thank you to your body by healing and nurturing it with a healthier diet and less alcohol.
Stop dwelling on what cancer stole from you.
Focusing on what you've lost because of cancer will prevent you from ever moving on and being truly happy.
Train yourself to focus on what you do have, instead of the things you have lost because of cancer, because this can completely transform your life.
I got so preoccupied in the loss of my beautiful long curly blonde hair, and that kept me stuck in sadness, in the past and in a place of lack.
At least my hair was growing back, and sure the growing out part can be a pain, but it’s actually an amazing opportunity to try out all kinds of colours and styles that before cancer I would never had the courage to do.
Start a gratitude list, have a little notebook by your bed and write ten things you are grateful for every night before you go to sleep. I promise it will have you waking up feeling more positive and feeling an abundance in your life rather than a lack.
There is no time limit to recovery.
Stop thinking that just because the treatment is over you immediately haver to have a spring in your step and be raring to go.
It takes months for the poison of chemotherapy to leave your body, and it will take time for you to heal emotionally and mentally from the trauma you endured.
So be gentle and patient with yourself.
No, that’s not an excuse to stay in bed and hibernate in self-pity.
But go slow, get into work gradually, maybe one day a week to start with. Don’t go straight back to the gym but rather start with slow leisurely strolls in the forest breathing in the energy of nature.
It’s all about baby steps at the beginning so stop trying to immediately run back into life, and rather stroll.
Life AFTER cancer treatment can be really tough
for some survivors.
I've written a book & created a new online course for moving on and living your very best life AFTER cancer treatment.
It doesn't matter whether you finished treatment last week,
last month, last year or 5 years ago.
You CAN still live the greatest chapter of your life, you CAN feel more confident, and you CAN feel more beautiful even after going through treatment.
I know this because I am living proof of it.