PROGRAM TO CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK, FEEL AND LIVE AFTER GOING THROUGH CANCER TREATMENT
LIFE AFTER TREATMENT
WELCOME TO MY
LIFE AFTER TREATMENT PROGRAM
FELLOW BEAUTIFUL SURVIVOR!
This course takes you by the hand and navigates you along the path of your life AFTER treatment to happiness, confidence and peace.
I'm going to be totally honest with you, because that's how I roll, the journey you embark on, if you choose to do this online course, isn't a casual stroll in the park - it's a windy path with ups and downs, twists and turns, tricky parts and plain sailing too, but ultimately, if you are willing to make this incredible life transforming journey with me you will become happier than you ever thought possible.
And I will be there every step of the way because I know the route to take, I know the easiest way to get you to where you want to be and it is my absolute pleasure to bring you to the incredibly happy and fearless place where I now reside.
We are going to leave the experience of cancer treatment behind you and truly move on.
Are you ready?
Some things to know
for the journey you are about to embark on...
An open mind is essential; if you are serious about wanting a life of true happiness and peace after treatment then you must be willing to try all the weird and wonderful ideas, concepts, tools and exercises I suggest along the way. Don’t worry, none of it is scary... but some of it is a little bit quirky and a little bit ‘out there’… because I am quirky and a little bit ‘out there.’ And I wouldn’t suggest these things if I didn’t know they worked, remember I am living proof that these things work so why not just give them a try?
When I tried some of the exercises for the first time I felt like an idiot! But I wanted to be happy and free, so I was willing to try anything. Are you? What have you got to lose by doing something that you don’t normally do, or by taking a teeny tiny step out of your comfort zone? I’m just asking that while you do my online program you put your doubt aside, you pluck up a little bit of courage and you dare to do things differently.
These ideas, tools and exercises were not a quick fix or an instant solution for me, but as long as I was consistent, as long as I integrated them into my every day life, the transformation began and the blocks to my happiness lifted. Moving on after cancer is not an overnight matter, patience is critical because it takes time, it takes baby steps and it takes commitment. But I can promise you if you commit yourself to doing whatever you have to do to be happy then you will find your way there.
So all you need for this course is an open mind and some willingness; be willing to think differently, see differently and feel differently. That willingness is your biggest hurdle, but once you are willing the doors will open and it will blow your mind when you discover what’s waiting for you on the other side.
‘Scepticism, in connection with ALL new ideas, is characteristic of all human beings. But if you follow the instructions outlined your scepticism will soon be replaced by belief, and this in turn will soon become crystallised into absolute faith. Then you will have arrived at the point where you may truly say, ‘I am the Master of my Fate, I am the Captain of my Soul.’
- Napoleon Hill
Cancer is not a straight line. It's up and down.
I thought it was depression. It just didn’t make any sense to me as I had survived cancer treatment. My hair was finally growing back, I had eyelashes and eyebrows again, I was beginning to lose the weight from the steroids I was given during chemo. This was all good stuff, no it was great stuff, so why wasn’t I jumping up and down with joy?
The simple truth was that my cancer journey wasn’t over yet, I still had feelings to process, new truths to acknowledge and understand, I still had some work to do. I thought it was depression but in actual fact I was still overcoming and processing the trauma of what I had been through. For some people that takes a matter of weeks or months, for me it took years. But don't worry, it won't take you years because I have condensed everything I learnt into this course.
I am here to give you the peace of mind that whatever you are feeling right now is absolutely okay and perfectly normal. There is no reason to feel guilty or ashamed because you survived treatment but are struggling to be happy. The way you are feeling right now
is not wrong or bad, there is no wrong or bad in the journey of
life after cancer treatment.
There is no wrong or right when it comes to moving on after cancer treatment...
Life AFTER cancer can be just as hard, if not harder, than going through the cancer.
Because this is the time when cancer survivors feel the most vulnerable and unsupported. Everything revolved around you and your cancer, but suddenly it all stopped and you were left to fend for yourself and cope with all the feelings that came up once the nightmare was over.
The treatment stops, the doctor sends you on your merry way, and that’s when everything hits you, when the enormity of what you just went through punches you right in the face and knocks you over. And you are left lying on the floor, feeling completely winded, bewildered, alone and afraid.
Of course you're going to feel that way, going through cancer treatment is like a soldier going to the front lines to fight a war.
When that soldier returns home they are shell shocked, broken, torn apart from everything they saw, they felt and they endured.
You are no different.
When that soldier returns home do you think they instantly have a skip in their step, and feel only pure joy because they made it back alive?
Their return home is a process and it takes time.
Your return to your life after cancer treatment is also a process and will also take time. You have nothing to feel guilty or ashamed about, do you hear me?
Of course the soldier returning from war is grateful to make it home alive, but that doesn’t mean he isn’t going to struggle to integrate back into day to day life.
Would you make that soldier feel bad because they aren’t instantly back to normal as soon as they return from war?
So why give yourself such a hard time?
It’s time to give yourself a break, allow yourself to be where you are and start the work to let go and move on slowly but surely.
You can’t rush the process, you can’t press fast forward, you need to practise patience and take it one step at a time.
It’s all good and well to be told it’s time to move on now, to 'go back to normal' because the cancer treatment is over… but what the doctors don't do is tell you how you’re supposed to do that.
The cancer journey doesn't end just because the treatment does.
The doctors told me to 'go back to normal' but didn't tell me how, and as a consequence I struggled for many years to move on.
I struggled getting back into a rhythm with my life because...
a) I wasn’t accepting where I was or processing what I was feeling.
b) I was dragging the experience of cancer with me wherever I went.
c) I was desperately trying to go back to the person I used to be before cancer came and screwed everything up.
d) I was living my life consumed by fear and anxiety.
THE CANCER COCOON
Do you feel like you’re a different person since surviving cancer treatment?
You’re not sure how you are different, or what exactly has changed, you just know the person you've become after treatment is not the person you were before?
I call that the CANCER COCOON.
And you are most certainly not the only person feeling this way.
When the doctor first tells you that you have cancer your whole being goes into shock, and immediately snaps into survival mode. Suddenly you are blinded to everything else in your life, and your whole world revolves around cancer and staying alive.
I believe that when we switch into this survival mode part of us slips into a safe and nurturing cocoon and begins a metamorphosis without us having a clue what’s going on.
We are so fixated on doing what we have to do not to die, that we are oblivious to the inner transformation that has begun.
Then a year or so down the line the treatment ends and the oncologist gives us the all clear to get back to living... and in that moment our survival mode switches off and we go back into manual again.
And as soon as we no longer need to be in survival mode, the cocoon that has been keeping us safe breaks open, and a new version of ourselves begins to emerge.
Feeling unfamiliar to yourself is scary, but once you understand what’s really taken place your life will turn into one big miracle.
Think of it like this...
It's okay, I'm not expecting you grasp this concept immediately.
It took me a while to start believing that I was a better version of myself now than before the cancer... it took me a long time to stop trying to go back to the old me I used to be before treatment. BUT I don't want you wasting all that precious time looking back when you could be living your greatest life right now. I wasted so much time looking back instead of seeing the truth of how amazing the person was that I had become as a consequence of what I went through.
Please know everything I write, everything I say, everything I suggest on this course has 100 billion percent your best interest at heart. I know everything I offer here works because using these concepts and techniques hasn't only changed my life, but the lives of hundreds of clients that have come to me to find happiness after cancer treatment.
So you may not believe me when I tell you that the cocoon of cancer treatment actually transformed you into a beautiful butterfly without you knowing it...but that's my point, you just haven't realised it YET. But with my help and the exercises I suggest you will realise it, and you will start loving yourself exactly for who you are, exactly how you are and find the happiness, confidence and peace you so deserve.
is something that happened to you, but it doesn’t have to define your present or your future.
“Even though you may want to move forward in your life,
you may have one foot on the brakes.
In order to be free,
we must learn how to let go.
Release the hurt. Release the fear.
Refuse to entertain your old pain.
The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. ”
- Mary Manin Morrissey
Change is never easy at the best of times, and change is even harder after already going through the trauma of cancer treatment. Didn’t we go through enough? After that hell can’t we just go back to the way things were? Can’t we just go back to who we were and get on with our lives?
No, I don’t believe we can.
Right now, that may seem unbearable, but as you let go of the old and get to know the new, your perspective will slowly but surely change. You’ll spend less time missing your old life and more time looking forward to the prospect of your life today. You’re actually going to start really digging yourself, and realize that your life is going to be amazing. But you’re just at the beginning of your journey, so right now you need to have faith and trust me. Just rest in the knowledge that if I could get myself to this place of pure happiness and peace after cancer treatment, then you can too.
Change isn’t bad.
Transformation isn’t bad.
Growing, evolving, learning and changing, those are the things that take our lives to a new level, those are the things that open our eyes to a whole new way of being, to experiencing a peace and happiness we never knew existed.
It’s just that you’ve been holding on to who you were so tightly that you’re not allowing that joy and peace to come into your life.
You believe that if you let go of who you were before the cancer then you might disappear altogether, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Letting go of that older version of yourself will allow you to transform your life, opening the door to so many new and wonderful experiences and opportunities. That’s how you begin to truly live again.
IT ONLY TAKES ONE PERSON TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE...
If you're serious about transforming your life after the hell of treatment,
then sign up and do this amazing online course, so you can finally start living the greatest chapter of your life so far.
Or if you'd prefer, set up a
wellbeing coaching session with me.