My mum would most definitely not agree with me on this one; she loves diamonds, Chanel jackets and the finer things in life.
I used to believe I liked all those things too; they mattered to her so I wanted them to matter to me. I had a great collection of designer shoes, made sure I drank and ate in the trendiest of places and then got diagnosed with cancer.
Those materialistic needs and wants were one of the first things to go after I finished my treatment. Those things just didn’t define who I was anymore; so much other stuff had become so much more important.
A transformation took place while I was busy surviving cancer, and I was too busy focus on staying alive to notice the profound changes that were happening inside of me. But one thing is for sure, when you’re dealing with a bald head and no eyebrows or lashes a pair of 5 inch Jimmy Choos are not on the top of your list of priorities!
And 5 inch heels never became a priority for me again. In fact, after the pain of chemo needles, mastectomies and the side effects of medication, I can’t conceive putting myself through more discomfort by putting sticks under my feet and trying to balance on them! Wedges are much more my thing now.
I still walk past a shop window and drool at a beautiful designer dress. Is it gorgeous? Yes. Would I look amazing in it? Most definitely. Do I need it? Absolutely not. Will my life be emptier without it? Certainly not.
My priorities have changed since surviving cancer, that’s what surviving a trauma does to a person,.. it changes them profoundly, forever.
Human connections, meaningful authentic relationships, are a priority for me now. Laughing with a friend whilst walking my dogs in the forest is a trillion times better than a shopping spree.
Cancer showed me what’s important, what really matters, and it sure ain’t diamonds and sports cars people! It’s love, it’s all about the love.
Has anyone else had a similar change of heart and mind post cancer treatment? I would love to hear about your experiences. Human connections remember? Why not try it!